I Blame You… No! Blame Yourself.

I Blame You… No! Blame Yourself.

Many situations come in our lives and sometimes we feel that we were blinded by them. Many situations we face we bring on ourselves but do not want to admit it. It is so much easier to blame others rather than looking within and seeing what we have done to prevent the situation to happen. Sometimes we blame others for getting fired from a job. We blame others for blocking us from reaching our dreams and aspirations. We blame others for all of our actions instead of looking at what part we played to cause it. Proverbs 28:13 says that, “He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, But he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion.”

This level of maturity is hard to face and to walk through because it is hard to turn the mirror on ourselves. When the Lord begins to show us ourselves, we have a choice to: Rebel, make excuses and rationalize, or given in and listen to God.

I remember one day I prayed to God to be closer to Him because I knew that I was moving to another assignment in life. When I prayed these prayers, the Lord began to show me myself. He showed me my attitude and my character and it was way out of line. I did not know that I had a bad attitude. I could not believe it. God said that before I am able to help others and help start a church, I must check my attitude.

I am a person who do not like meetings. The Lord is helping me to understand the way people think. So I would easily snap when things do not make sense. I would leave a meeting and get on the phone and begin to blame others about the flow of the meeting. The next morning after meetings, I would wake up still fired up. Then I heard the Lord say, “you caused it. What did you do to cause the meeting to go awry? How was your attitude? What could you have done to ease the situation?” I could not believe the questions that were coming my way! I instantly went on the defense. It was not me; it was them because them… The Lord stopped me and had me to look at myself.

I decided to straighten up and allow the Holy Spirit to fix me. I allowed Him to. When I began to allow the Holy Spirit to work and began to admit my wrongs and faults to others, I felt so much better because it was helping me to become a better person. It was an emotional process because I could not believe I had so much evil and hatred in my heart. When I decided to allow the Lord to work on me, I felt like I was given a new heart.

One of the works of the Holy Spirit is to give us power to witness to one another. You cannot witness to one another with hatred in your heart. Thank God that He loves us so much that He corrects us so we can be influential to those who do it know Him. Revelations 3: 19 says that, “Those whom I [dearly and tenderly] love, I tell their faults and convict and convince and reprove and chasten [I discipline and instruct them]. So be enthusiastic and in earnest and burning with zeal and repent [changing your mind and attitude]. [Prov. 3:12.]” You cannot properly receive God’s correction until you understand and know the love God has for you. The way God corrects may not be understood by us but I thank God that He does it.

No more should be blame others of our situations but we need to allow the Holy Spirit to open our eyes and allow us to see what we have done wrong to cause the situation arise. We have choices and we choose to do what we want to do rather than what it is right. God can show you the door of correction but we have a choice to walk through it. His love is kind and we should rejoice when God corrects us. We have should a desire to grow fruit (character) that is plentiful and tasteful for those who need it the most.


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